Relapser — There Is Nothing Wrong With You

The truth is, you could do everything right and still relapse. And you can find all the mistakes that you believe led to your relapse, but you will never know for certain if changing these things would have prevented it.

The Art of Being Soft and Strong

Developing the ability to be soft and strong is truly an art. It is a gift, a talent, and a superpower. However, it takes a little longer for others to accept and understand because it is so different. People have a hard time comprehending that someone can be two seemingly opposite things at the same time. As humans, we are inclined to place people in either one category or another. We have what one of my favorite authors, Jen Sincero, likes to call the “either-or syndrome”. Soft or strong, good or bad, creative or responsible, the list goes on.

Your Vote Does Not Define You — Based on Information Theory

It is unreasonable and unscientific to gross generalize people based on one choice they make, regardless of what that choice is. According to studies on information theory, we can only consciously process 50 out of the 11 million bits of information per second, gathered by our senses from the environment.

Why You Have Fewer Views When You Distribute More — Writing and Social Media

Almost every strategy used by social media specialists has simple logic and math at its core. Yes, social phycology plays a huge role in social media strategy. But phycology does not outweigh pragmatism, basic math, or the simple rules of life.

Addicts are Dying While Recovery is Failing — A Culture of Recovery Shame

The anonymous nature of 12-step programs, coupled with blind loyalty towards esteemed members, has created an environment where sexual predators abuse their community-given authority to prey upon vulnerable people — people who are desperately running into the rooms looking for someone to help them save their life.

Being Used is Only Bad in Excess

When we talk about someone being used in a relationship, we usually think of it as a bad thing. Comments around people using people usually have negative connotations. No matter who you are or where your passion lies on the spectrum of human possibility, you have no reason to share your gifts, your work, or your ideas with the world — if no-one is going to use them. Being used isn’t bad. We all want to be used. What we don’t want is to be over-used, under-appreciated or under-compensated.

Great Successes Who Died Failures — What If Van Gogh Never Painted the World?

They shaped our world without our permission — never let rejection stop you from writing, painting, thinking and creating Originally published on Medium—Holly Kellums Feb 21  Success appears to be less about the world wanting what we have to offer and more about our resolve to give it, even in the face of rejection. MostContinue reading “Great Successes Who Died Failures — What If Van Gogh Never Painted the World?”

The Art of Appreciation — A Paradoxical Superpower

We are here today to talk, again, about compliments — further exploring why people refuse to take them, even though they really want to. We are so mysterious and paradoxical, us humans — always wanting things that we no longer want as soon as we get them. Intriguing beings we are. There has been a focusContinue reading “The Art of Appreciation — A Paradoxical Superpower”

The Importance of the Correct Quotes—Curly or Straight?

If you are a writer who wasn’t aware of the importance of these curly little guys, now you know. They matter. You never know who will see your work. Depending on the level of professionalism they are seeking, those ‘dumb’ quotes might be what stops them from looking further.